What would it take?

So this happened:

Mangala Solaris, most famously of RvB fame and a constant and abiding Rixx supporter, is walking away from Eve. It is sad news and Mang will be missed. It is always a little like having a small chunk of your heart ripped out whenever someone leaves Eve. I don't like it. But I certainly appreciate everyone's right to do so. Life is a complicated mess and it is best to get on with it. Eve is only a very small part of that mess.

This post isn't about someone leaving. Rather it started me thinking about what it would take for me to leave. In a few short months I will have been playing Eve for seven years and writing this blog for six of those years. There are times when my involvement in the Eve Community, my responsibilities as CEO of Stay Frosty, Executor of A Band Apart, and everything else I'm involved with can be a tad overwhelming. Just being honest here. In the spirit of honesty however, I must also admit, that I love and enjoy all of those things tremendously.

I did come close to walking away once. In the Spring of 2012 during the chaos surrounding my long-standing business closing it's doors. That was an extremely horrible moment that amounted to a huge stinking pile of stress, the ripples of which I am still living in today. (Both in and out of game.) It was catastrophic, no sense in down-playing it. And my first reaction was to shed as many layers of involvement as possible to focus more energy on what really mattered. In hindsight it was the right response and I did walk away from Eve for a couple of months. It did help. But I just couldn't let go.

At this point I am so invested in Eve, the community, and my place in that world that I have no intention of ever leaving. Intention is one thing, results are another. Life often has other plans and I know very well that day may come. Nothing lasts forever. There are events outside of our control that could take me away from Eve. Those are just things that happen and happen to us all.

I never intended to close my business either. But events beyond my control conspired to force me to make that decision. Sometimes we have to make hard choices. Let's just chalk those moments up to fate. Shit happens.

But otherwise? No. I'm staying.

I still get excited when I find time in my day to play. I enjoy the people, the community, the projects and the on-going challenge of trying to become good at playing this eternally confounding mess that is Eve Online. It is, after all, a lot like life. There is no end game. There is no roadmap, no path, no way of knowing where it will all lead. And one day, no one knows when, it will suddenly all just end.

Maybe in the final analysis that is what is so amazing about Eve. The same reason we all get out of bed every morning. The promise of a new day and what it might hold for us. Life, and Eve, are both adventures.


  1. I've stopped playing Eve several times in the past but have always come back. I've been playing for over 6 years and I'm a little older than most Eve players - I'm 55. Eve is the only video game I've ever played. A friend of mine introduced me to it in 2009. When he first told me about Eve I told him that I wasn't interested in playing a video game - that I was too old (49) to be playing games. That didn't stop my friend from talking to me about it. Since I was a retired US Navy sailor he used the fact that Eve was about ships to finally convince me to try it. I'd like to say that I fail in love with Eve right away but I didn't. She was an acquired love not love at first sight. If we're not careful she can be a very demanding mistress. Steeling time from our real loved ones. That's why I walked away in the past. I was spending too much time playing and not enough time living. I have to guard myself today so that I don't let her steel away my time...

    1. My wife is quite happy that I play Eve in the evenings (when I can). She has stated a number of time that Eve makes a nice, inexpensive mistress.

    2. I'll be turning 49 this year myself, so us old doods need to stick together.

    3. My wife has said a similar thing. Nerd fun is always okay.

  2. Well if WCS were banned I'd quit of course. :)
    More seriously, a MMO that is better as EVE could draw me away. Good luck to any developer in that regard, since I don't see it happening in the near future.

  3. New ship icons make me wiling to quit...seriously.....

    1. Oh c'mon, the ship name is right there beside it like always. You'll get used to it.

  4. I'm 52 and played games since childhood. I tend to stick with games for a long time, where there is a community and friendships can be developed.
    Eve has all that but as Anon guy said it can take a toll. I did leave the game once a few years back and am planning to take a new break.

    The part that sucks is when i announced to my corp members most decided to quit and that didn't make me feel any better. Currently I "only" have 6 accounts (18 pilots) but used to have 21 accounts full of pilots (main reason I left back then - burnout).

    This time the reason I'm tending to leave is really lack of goals. done a little of everything in game and really lost most of its appeal, except for the community. But that alone is not enough, at least for me, but i'm sure I'll be back too.

    Btw: Rixx, you know my email, if you need sponsors just let me know. I probably will keep my accounts sub(ed) for the time being.

  5. Is this turning into a confessional 'I'm Over 40 and I Play EVE' thread?

    42 here, and old enough to have played the original Elite (EVE's true progenitor) in 1984 with its glorious monochrome vector graphics - a spectacular achievement at the time. I keep wanting to tell my younger corp mates 'you lot don't know yer born!!'


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